Heal Your Insecure Attachment

Break through negative beliefs, build self-esteem, learn to self-regulate, love and trust yourself in 6 months.

Underneath the layers of old programming, negative beliefs, fears, and insecurities lies your true self; the one who shines her light. This is the real You.


Many of us walk around not knowing that the seemingly insignificant wounds from our past greatly influence how we see ourselves and then how big or how small we play in our lives. These old wounds and negative beliefs we carry about ourselves tend to keep us in patterns of dating emotionally unavailable partners. When the anxious-insecure woman finds herself in a relationship, she’s either abandoning herself who have a greater tendency to be highly sensitive, tend to struggle the most with the wounds from their past because it causes them to see themselves negatively and break what belief and trust they have in themselves.

When we lack trust in ourselves and struggle with insecurity and anxity

The biggest piece I’m taking away from this coaching journey with Anita is letting myself see who I am- beyond the all my negative beliefs.

Before working with Anita, I struggled with low self-esteem and bouts of depression. I had little belief in myself and I definitely could not say I loved myself.

During our work together and finally seeing myself clearly for probably the first time in a long time, I realized that I could actually like that person that I’m seeing and even value this person. Even in my down days, I now have this truth of who I am instilled inside me. I know I can always find my way back to her.

-M.K., Boston, MA

How the Program Works:

 Healing your anxious-insecure attachment begins at the core: your thoughts and fears. We build off of a strong foundation of self-awareness, so this first module sets the stage for the consecutive modules to build off of.

The following modules bring you on a journey of self-discovery and self-love, teaching you how to move beyond your narrative and old identity and into seeing and attending to yourself. It’s a powerful process that is best experienced.

The final module is to prepare you for integration in your current relationship or to help prepare you for dating and attracting the right time of relationship for you.

Month 1: Retrain the Anxious Brain

This month is dedicated to regaining control over your thinking brain. When you have an anxious attachment style and deal with insecurities, there can be an awful lot of distorted thinking and storytelling that act like thinking traps. In this section, you will learn:


  • Your attachment style
  • Your specific anxiety triggers are and how you show up
  • Learning tailored to you mindfulness techniques and tools to help you become more present
  • Learn your repetitive thinking traps
  • How to work through anxious, fearful thinking

Month 2+3: Complete Your Past

This is when we take a deep dive into your past and make sense of your story and the beliefs you took on about yourself.

  • Uncover your core negative beliefs and break through negative core beliefs
  • Discover your main survival roles and how to break out
  • Work through self-esteem and self-labels
  • Work through the Unworthiness wound
  • The Abandonment wound and other unmet needs
  • Fear of Rejection and how to prepare for social connection
  • Understand your main triggers in relationships


Month 4+5: Learn to Love Yourself

This portion makes up the bulk of the HYIA program. It’s focused on help you to understand yourself and your feelings, how to attend to yourself lovingly, where you’ll learn the tools for self-compassion.

  • Meet your inner child
  • Learn how to work with a strong inner critic
  • Understanding self-abandonment
  • Learn to regulate your emotions through self-soothing
  • Learn self-compassion and positive self-talk
  • Learn to trust your inner guidance
  • Discovering and meeting (again) your Authentic Self


Month 6: Attract the relationships you long for

If your goal is to begin the journey of dating again to find the “right” one, then this 4-session extension be right for you. This final module will prepare you for the dating journey, but this time you’ll be deliberate and intentional. In this final section you will:

  • Get clear on your red, yellow and green flags in dating
  • Learn how to be a good judge of character
  • Get clear on your non-negotiable needs and ideal relationship
  • Uncover your main sabotagers when it comes to forming a healthy relationship
  • Learn what healthy love and a conscious relationship looks like
  • Gain tools for conflict resolution for you and your future partner!


“When I met Anita I was single and serial dating for two years.

As I started working with her, I realized there was a lot of fear and hurt that I needed to overcome to understand myself. I thought I was ready for love but learned that I had to work on my attachment style to find the right love for me.

The tools I now have are helping me navigate all of my relationships, specifically with setting healthy boundaries. I am walking away with more confidence and positivity about my approach to dating and overall happiness.”

-E.P., Vancouver, Canada

“I’m impressed with how much the tools Anita has given me to check in with feelings have affected my daily life already. I’ve stopped myself many times throughout the day to stop, tune in and ask what story I’m attaching to the feeling. It’s helped me to feel more connected to me and what I’m currently feeling”

-A.H., Vancouver, CA

“During the second half of the program, I noticed I had started to treat myself better and step into a more loving relationship with myself. This is the time when I started to see the power in me, the voice I actually had and the care I had for my feelings.

I started to internally feel like I was stepping into a new me, the ‘higher self’ I always wanted to become

-Tina J., Birmingham, UK

“I have never dug so deep into myself and my past before and I think that the self-discovery in that itself has been just phenomenal for me because my goal when we started was to get back my Ex. The goal should have never been that, and that is what it’s taught me: the goal should have never been about someone else, it should have always been about me. And now I have learned that.”

– Jess D., Florida


How is this program run?

This is a 1:1 program with Anita as your coach. She prefers to have 1:1 coaching sessions to help bring you the deepest insights and impact in your healing journey. We meet over zoom for a weekly 1-hour coaching call for the duration of the program.

What's all included?

Along with weekly zoom calls, you will receive at the end of each session: further reading material, worksheets, templates and any other resources helping you to connect the dots and dig a bit deeper into your own inner work. This “homework” is meant to help you continue progressing forward while giving you time with yourself to process, reflect and uncover aspects of your story and yourself.

What if I'm already working with a Therapist?

That’s great! Coaching and therapy work great hand in hand.  In fact, it’s even more helpful for you to have two people in your corner helping you to uncover and process. Many clients have noticed how well the coaching sessions go with their therapy. Anita ensures that she’s adding to the conversation of what you’re already learning in therapy.

Am I right for this program?

The best way to find out if you are a good fit for the program is to book a discovery call with Anita. You can do that here. Anita looks for individuals who are self-motivated and responsible, who are open and coachable. Healing and transforming out of an insecure attachment and building a strong sense of self takes time, and so she wants to ensure you are up for the journey of 6 months!


What is your refund policy?

Anita wants you to feel like you’re learning and progressing through this program! If for some reason you feel you are not getting what you hoped for from the program, it’s encouraged to speak to Anita about this and she will restructure the program to be more tailored to your needs. Open communication is how we can ensure this program will get you your results!

Heal your Insecure Attachment