Homecoming
Stop leaving yourself to keep someone else.
For sensitive, self-aware women ready to trust themselves, speak their truth, and choose themselves in love and life.
You know you need to stop abandoning yourself.
Homecoming is where you learn how.
You know a lot about yourself already.
You’ve been reading the books (okay, IG posts), going to therapy, “doing the work”.
You know now that you have a tendency to:
🌿 people-please
🌿 give ‘too much’
🌿 give-in too often
🌿 and chase after people who don’t feel good.
all at the sake of being liked, feeling valuable, and trying to fit in.
You know you need:
🌿Stronger boundaries — You might know what you don’t like, but it isn’t the same as holding a boundary for it when someone you love pushes against it.
🌿 To trust yourself more— You might know you deserve recogition at work, but it isn’t the same as walking away from something isn’t providing that.
🌿 To just ‘be yourself and the right ones will come’, but you find it difficult to be relaxed socially because you’re constantly self-monitoring what you say and hyper-reading others’ reactions.
🌿 In friendships, You may know you’re allowed to have needs, but voicing them in a relationship where you’ve always put her needs first is another thing entirely.
🌿 In love, You might know when something doesn’t feel right, but you’re too terrified of letting it go.
🌿 In life, You know you want something different – something more – but you keep waiting for permission to finally choose it.
The problem isn’t that you don’t know yourself.
It’s that knowing yourself and choosing yourself are two very different things – Especially when there’s a risk of losing someone or of not being liked or included.
What you need to learn is:
How to stay with yourself when being yourself risks disappointing others, being disliked or rejected by, or even left by someone else.
(Because the deepest self-trust is knowing that even if someone else leaves, you won’t leave yourself.)
The Homecoming Method
Homecoming is not about becoming a better version of yourself by “fixing” everything that feels wrong with you.
It’s about understanding the patterns that taught you to leave yourself in the first place, and gently building the inner safety, self-trust, and self-recognition to choose yourself again.
It’s the journey from self-awareness to self-leadership.
It’s where you learn how to remain connected to yourself when being yourself has a cost.
— The Transformation —
Through eight core capacities, you’ll learn to stay connected to yourself in the moments when love, approval, belonging, or the fear of losing someone would normally pull you away from your own truth.
1. STAY
Learn to stay with yourself when you’re triggered instead of immediately chasing, fixing, pleasing or reacting.
2. HEAR
Reconnect with what you actually feel, need, want and know beneath everyone else’s expectations.
3. WANT
Give yourself permission to discover and admit what you actually want—without first asking whether it’s acceptable, realistic, or available.
4. TRUST
Learn to take what you feel, know, need, and want seriously instead of constantly second-guessing yourself.
5. EXPRESS
Bring your inner truth into relationship by expressing your needs, wants, preferences, boundaries, and truth.
6. STAND
Stay on your own side when expressing yourself risks disapproval, rejection, conflict, misunderstanding, or loss.
7. HONOUR
Make what matters to you real through boundaries, standards, and behaviour that reflect it.
8. CHOOSE
Make decisions and take action based on what you know to be true for you.
— What Becomes Possible —
Imagine no longer needing everyone around you to be okay in order for you to be okay.
— How Homecoming Works —
Homecoming is currently a 6 -month private coaching experience.
We meet weekly for a one-hour private coaching session, where we work with what is actually happening in your life while moving through the deeper Homecoming methodology.
This work isn’t limited to romantic relationships.
Self-abandonment can show up with partners, family, friendships, work, ambition, boundaries, identity and major life decisions.
Between sessions, you’ll receive practices, reflection exercises and resources designed to help you take what we uncover in coaching and live it outside the session.
The objective is for you to practise trusting yourself enough to BE authentically yourself on an ordinary Tuesday when in rooms with people who you normally would feel intimidated by or feeling the need to please, help, or over-give in order to feel valuable, liked, or included.
Meet Liz
She went from performing in all her relationships for approval and overextending herself to prove her value at work to listening to herself and living life on her own terms
Over the past year, I had the privilege of walking beside a client named Liz through one of the biggest periods of transformation in her life.
THE BEFORE:
When Liz first came to me, she felt deeply burnt out, overextended, disconnected from herself, and unsure of what she truly wanted in her career life, as she was unhappy at her current company.
She was constantly overgiving at work, struggling to say no, trying to meet everyone else’s expectations, and losing herself in the process.
She knew something had to change, but she didn’t fully trust herself yet.
What We Worked On:
🌿 The emotional roots of her overgiving (her main self-abandonment behavior pattern) looking way back to her earliest memories at home and who she learned she needed to be for mom and dad.
🌿 Why she felt responsible for everyone’s problems and moods.
🌿 How she abandoned herself to avoid disappointing others
🌿 Boundaries with family members, coworker’s and boss, and learning that she is not responsible for other people’s problems or happiness.
🌿 Helping her understanding what she was feeling, and trusting her own judgment around others
🌿 Recognizing the cues of needing to rest and recharge before burnout
🌿 Beginning dating again without being who she thinks they want her to be and instead show up as her real, authentic self.
🌿 Building a stronger relationship with herself, where she feels “I got myself” no matter what I encounter.
THE AFTER:
By the end of our work together, Liz wasn’t trying to prove herself anymore.
She stopped looking to her boss for validation and starting speaking up when she was feeling she had enough on her plate. This in turn began changing the relationship with her boss where he began treating her with a higher regard and respect for her time. He even began opening up to her more.
She started honouring her limits and became more honest in relationships, realizing that she didn’t need to reach out to family members as much as she thought– that they could actually figure it out on their own. This gave Liz the chance to relax and she’s started taking more walks out in nature.
She learned to recognize when she was abandoning herself and make different choices.
🌿 🌿 🌿
One of the most beautiful moments in our final session was hearing her say that she finally felt ready to stop coaching because she felt she trusted herself and move forward on her own for now.
By the end of our work together, Liz wasn’t perfect, healed, or suddenly without challenges. But she was far more grounded in herself. More aware. More intentional. More honest. More connected to what she needed and wanted.
And to me, that’s the real work.
Not becoming a “perfectly healed” person. But someone who can now confidently show up in their workplace, in their family relationships, their friendships and romantic relationships as themselves- without the need to have them approve of how they are being anymore.
What Other Clients Have Said…
“During the second half of the program, I noticed I had started to treat myself better and step into a more loving relationship with myself. This is the time when I started to see the power in me, the voice I actually had and the care I had for my feelings.
I started to internally feel like I was stepping into a new me, the ‘higher self’ I always wanted to become”
-Tina J., UK
“I have never dug so deep into myself and my past before and I think that the self-discovery in that itself has been just phenomenal for me because my goal when we started was to get back my Ex. The goal should have never been that, and that is what it’s taught me: the goal should have never been about someone else, it should have always been about me. And now I have learned that.”
-Jess D., Florida
“I feel like you’re the first person I can open up to and finally dig deep and understand why I keep pushing away love and intimacy. This work is hard but I am seeing how it’s so worth it!”
Tra G., Texas
“I can’t believe how powerfully my inner world has transformed in just 6 months. Thank you, thank you, x infinity. I am so grateful to have crossed paths with your IG page.”
Sam M., Boston
“I’m impressed with how much the tools Anita has given me to check in with feelings have affected my daily life already. I’ve stopped myself many times throughout the day to stop, tune in and ask what story I’m attaching to the feeling. It’s helped me to feel more connected to me and what I’m currently feeling”
-A.H., Vancouver, Canada
“You have helped me become a better parent, a better friend, a better sister and the best version of myself I could have possibly ever hoped for.”
Kelly D., Maine
“Relationships back then for me were never about connection, they were hijacked by pressing anxiety to latch on to whoever showed up.
I built a stronger and safer relationship with myself and I now show up in the world open to real CONNECTION, not auto-pilot attachment patterns.”
S.M., Kelowna, CA
FAQ
How is this program run?
This is a 1:1 program with Anita as your coach. She prefers to have 1:1 coaching sessions to help bring you the deepest insights and impact in your healing journey. We meet over zoom for a weekly 1-hour coaching call for the duration of the program.
What's all included?
Along with weekly zoom calls, you will receive at the end of each session: further reading material, worksheets, templates and any other resources helping you to connect the dots and dig a bit deeper into your own inner work. This “homework” is meant to help you continue progressing forward while giving you time with yourself to process, reflect and uncover aspects of your story and yourself.
What if I'm already working with a Therapist?
That’s great! Coaching and therapy work great hand in hand. In fact, it’s even more helpful for you to have two people in your corner helping you to uncover and process. Many clients have noticed how well the coaching sessions go with their therapy. Anita ensures that she’s adding to the conversation of what you’re already learning in therapy.
Am I right for this program?
The best way to find out if you are a good fit for the program is to book a discovery call with Anita. You can do that here. Anita looks for individuals who are self-motivated and responsible, who are open and coachable. Healing and transforming out of an insecure attachment and building a strong sense of self takes time, and so she wants to ensure you are up for the journey of 6 months!
What is your refund policy?
Anita wants you to feel like you’re learning and progressing through this program! If for some reason you feel you are not getting what you hoped for from the program, it’s encouraged to speak to Anita about this and she will restructure the program to be more tailored to your needs. Open communication is how we can ensure this program will get you your results!