It’s time to stop abandoning yourself
…and start putting yourself first.
You Learned to Shrink Yourself to Keep the Peace.
sPeople-pleasing. Overgiving. Staying quiet. Making yourself invisible. All are ways you learned to stay connected – but at a price.
When approval is your source for safety, you edit who you are.
And no matter how much validation you receive, something still feels empty — because you had to abandon yourself to get it.
Hi, I’m Anita…
And for most of my life, I lived as the good girl — overgiving, overfunctioning, and shaping myself to be liked, chosen, and approved of. I lost myself in relationships and in work that didn’t fulfill me, all while quietly longing to be seen.
Deep down, I just never felt “enough”.
My turning point came when I realized I wasn’t broken — but that I had learned to abandon myself through performing different roles in order to feel safe, accepted and connected. When I learned that these patterns weren’t who I am but that they were strategies I had picked up to survive in relationships, well, my whole world cracked open. It led me to finally begin the search for some of the deepest questions I’d face in my life, like:
“Who am I?”
“What actually makes me happy?”
and “What would I feel most fulfilled in life doing? and in Love having?”
I began learning how to trust myself, to be with and validate my feelings, and to finally stop outsourcing my worth. And as I did, I came back to who I really am and ultimately what I most want to do here.
Today, I guide deeply feeling women through this same return to themselves: to stop the long-lived pattern of self-abandonment, to rebuild connection and trust with themselves, and to live from a place that feels true, grounded, and aligned.
The Journey I Guide Women Through
For most of us, it starts in survival mode.
You overgive, overfunction, people-please, your put everyone else’s needs first and still feel unseen.
You live on edge, scanning, proving, chasing approval — never feeling fully safe or enough.
From there, the work is self-reclamation.
This is where you learn to build safety inside yourself, reclaim your worth, and trust your own voice again. You stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace, and finally come home to who you are.
And ultimately, it’s about stepping into your true Self.
From Self-Doubt to Unapologetically you.
From Insecure to Powerful.
From anxious to Grounded in Your Truth.
The woman who no longer shrinks, no longer hustles for worth, and no longer loses herself in love, work, or life.
Whether you feel stuck, lost, or hopeless… we begin where you are.
Choose Your Path:
Client Testimonials & Case Studies
“I finally feel proud of myself for not staying small. I didn’t abandon myself this time. Before, I would always give in just to feel loved, but this time I stayed true to me. That’s something I never thought I could do — and it feels amazing.”
-Zeena E., Boston, USA
“I tried therapy with multiple people and nothing helped — I still felt broken. Working with Anita made me realize I’m not broken. I was in survival mode. Now I feel lighter, more confident, and more hopeful about love than I ever have.”
-Sunniya F, Boston, USA
“Working with Anita changed the trajectory of my life. For the first time, I feel inner peace and safe enough to be my wild, free, authentic self. She helped me work through all the stuff that kept me small, and I’ve become a better parent, friend, sister — and the best version of myself I could have hoped for.”
-Kelly D, Maine, USA
When you stop outsourcing your worth, you stop abandoning yourself.
Why Self – Reclamation Works
Trauma-Informed, Not Quick-Fix
This isn’t about surface-level tips or “just love yourself more.” We go to the root — the survival patterns (people-pleasing, overfunctioning, hypervigilance) that kept you small.
Safety + Worth, From the Inside Out
Instead of chasing external validation, you learn how to build inner safety and reclaim your worth so you no longer abandon yourself to be chosen.
Lived + Professional Experience
I’ve walked this path myself. I know what it’s like to lose yourself — and I know what it takes to reclaim your voice and power. My work blends lived truth with tools that actually create lasting change.
You’ve always been enough.
This is the moment you finally claim it.
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